Author: Kris

He who does not understand your silence, likely will not understand your words.

Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you have in mind.

Gossip dies when it hits a wise persons ears.

Sometimes you need to be alone to find out who you really are, and what you truly want in life.

What we think, we become.

-The budda

Speak to your children as if they were the wisest, kindest, most beautiful and magical humans on the earth. For what they believe is what they will become.

If you have the power to make someone happy, do it. The world needs more of that.

‍The highest test of the civilization of any race is in its willingness to extend a helping hand to the less fortunate.

You know you’re on the right track when you’re uninterested in looking back.

Once you break the old TOXIC patterns, you’ll be much more open and available for a truly open and loving relationships – towards yourself and others. You will be finally able to love yourself. When you break the cycle, you stop acting like a victim, or stop acting like an abusive or inadequate parent. You’ll be more confident & assertive.

Stop playing the game.

Instead of fantasizing how your parents will change, strive to become a self-defined and assertive person. The more self-defined and independent you become, the less your toxic parents are probably going to like it, but they will also have less control over your life.

That’s why it’s important that you trust your own feelings and perceptions, and become who you really are, following your own goals and respecting your own needs.

You no longer have to be the helpless, dependent child with your partners, children, friends, colleagues, authority figures, and parents. You can finally be more emotionally available in your relationships, especially to your children. You become more independent.

Children of toxic parents often times behave toxically to other people in their relationships – spouse, siblings, friends etc. Remember, its a cycle. Apologizing to all the people you have hurt, and all the mistakes you made (especially to your children if you have them) is an IMPORTANT PART OF BREAKING THE CYCLE.

GENUINE LOVE creates feelings of warmth, pleasure, safety, inner peace and stability. These are also the loving behaviors you should spread among the people you love and the whole humanity. Live whole-heartedly. Express gratitude.

But remember, becoming a true loving adult is not a linear process… but a road on which you go upwards, downwards, forwards, backwards, and inside out.

You will falter and make mistakes on the path. A great deal of self‑reflection and proactive behavior can definitely help you on this path of becoming a healthy adult. You will also never be completely free of anxiety, fear, guilt and confusion, because no one is. But the demons seeded in you by your TOXIC PARENTS will no longer control you.

And that is the key. Reclaim your life! 🙂